3 Must Do’s For Online Dating Success

As you already know, the world of online dating can be a bear to navigate. In order to maximize your success (and your contacts from beautiful women), there are a few things you want to keep in mind when creating your online dating profile.

In this article I’m going to go over three basics that NEED to be covered in your profile in order to be successful.

1. Show Your Uniqueness

You have to differentiate yourself from the crowd. An opening like the one I suggest above will do that right away, and you want to keep that going.

Instead of listing your interests like you’re applying for a job, pick a couple and go with them. You want to create emotion and feeling as you write this. You want depth. You want to pull her in.

Here’s an example from the cut and paste in my profile book on your interests. It’s written for someone into rock climbing.

Oh, and look, before you gag on this, understand that we’re not writing this profile so I like it, or you like it or your friends like it. We’re writing it to get a woman attracted to you. If you’re interested in having your friends fall for you, then write what they like. If you want women to want you, write so you’re attractive to them. There’s a big difference.

I got hooked on rock climbing about 4 years ago. I go as much as I can these days. There’s something about the balance between the physical and mental challenge as you pick your next hold and go for it that I really like. Sometimes the rock seems to fight you and you have to find a way to make it up. But usually it feels like you and the cliff are working together to get to the top. I love being in that zone where I just feel connected to the world. Like there is the freedom to do anything, a stillness and curiosity that I take from the mountain into my daily life. I won’t drag you up a mountain with me, but if you’re the kind of woman who feels renewed looking down from the top of a hill with your man in the warm sun, rivers cascading through the green and brown landscape below, I’d love to share that with you.

See, I wasn’t kidding when I said that it’s a bit over the top. And before you bombard me with emails telling me what a sap I am, understand that even I think it’s a little much. But I’m not interested in my reaction to it. I only care how women respond to this kind of writing. And it’s become obvious over years of testing hundreds of profiles that this works. So I do it. You should too.

2. Proofread Your Profile

Proofread your profile. This will take you an extra 15 minutes and it’s probably the best 15 minutes you can invest in your online dating profile.

What you say is important, but how you say it says a lot more about you.

A profile with spelling mistakes, grammatical errors and incorrect punctuation doesn’t make the best impression. Careless writing makes her think you just don’t care, lack intelligence and are lazy. And believe it or not, some women don’t find stupid, lazy, apathetic men particularly attractive.

If you want an intelligent, caring woman, you need to write like an intelligent, caring guy. No, you don’t have to follow all the grammatical rules you learned in seventh grade. In fact you might not want to since it’s a good idea to write your profile like you talk, but you do have to show her that you have half a brain.

If you don’t have something like MS Word that has a spelling and grammar check, ask a friend to look your profile over. As a last resort you can send it to me and I can proofread it. I’ll proof it if I have time, and if I can’t, I’ll let you know.

3. Close your profile with a call to action.

Alright, you’ve spent all that time picking out your pictures and writing your profile. Now you have to tell her what to do.

Ask her to send you a message and give her a specific reason to write to you. Ask her a question about herself, ask her what she thinks of a picture you posted, or ask how she felt after reading your profile. The idea is to give her some direction so she doesn’t have to think about what to write about.

And if you’re willing to actually do it, end with a promise to write everyone back who writes you.

Here are a couple of cut and paste closes you can use in your profile.

It would be great if you sent me a message. We might really hit it off. But we won’t know unless you contact me. Tell me something unique about yourself, something attractive about you besides your looks, or what you thought of my profile. I promise to write everyone who writes me.:)

I’ve also used this one successfully:

It would be great to hear back from you. I’d love to hear more about you, simple things like what you like most about yourself or maybe a favorite holiday story with your family if it’s not too personal. I promise to write everyone who writes me.:)

Make it easy for her to respond to you. Give her an excuse. If she’s interested, you don’t want to lose her just because she doesn’t know what to say. Make it easy for her.

Following these tips, as well as the others I have covered in previous articles and on my website, will really set you apart from the crowd and get you noticed.

Shut Off The Negative Talk

Most online dating advice tells you what to do. How to “turn on” women – emotionally, physically, intellectually, even spiritually. But let’s take a moment and focus on what “not” to do so you don’t kill your chances before you even start. Here are three of the top ways to undermine your online dating success with women:

Online Dating Success Killer #1: Compromise Your Leadership

This doesn’t mean you have to be macho or false. It means that women generally look for a man who is a leader, if only in his own life. So look at your profile and see where you can project a sense of authority. If you are not technically a leader of other people at work or in your community life, how are you a leader in your family? How are you a thought leader? How do you influence people around you? How are you self-directed, following your own star, your own morals or your own art? How are you solid in who you are – and not subservient to others? Show that you are the engine of your life, and not a boxcar being pulled by others.

Online Dating Success Killer #2 Be A Beggar

Because of all the gender confusion in the wake of the women’s equality movement, men have become more sensitive to women’s feelings, which is actually a good thing. But alertness to a woman’s feelings and nurture – good things – are not to be confused with a lack of spine – a bad thing. Women are tired of men who ask. Try stating your goal and inviting them rather than asking for a date, for example. “I’m going to be in your neighborhood on Friday. I’ll be at X Wine Bar at 7 PM. Why don’t you drop by and we’ll say hello.” This has more internal power than “Would you go out with me on Friday, if you’re not busy?” Get the difference?

Online Dating Success Killer #3 Project Self-Limitation

There are subtle ways people show a lack of self-confidence. These are unsure times, and your solidity is a very valuable and sexy masculine trait when it comes to attracting women online. When you write your profile, review it and take out any phrases that limit or diminish you. For example, “I’m kind of happy” is an attraction-killer compared to, “I am a happy man.” Look out for phrases like “sort of” ” and “a little.” Basically, stand for what you say, and stand fully in it. Don’t diminish your commitment to what you say, because that only indicates that you don’t really believe in who you are and what you say.

That’s a start. And by the way – watch your speech in person when you meet women at work, meet women at bars or in your daily life. See if you can find ways in which you are undercutting your confidence – and hone your life accordingly. Stand for what you believe in. And raise the bar, not only for your self, but the women you meet, but for the sake of everybody.

Online Dating Free and Safely

There is also an alternative to this “Craigslist” that is right! Craigslist free dating is free to post ads in the personals for singles section and once your ad is posted all you have to do is renew it every 2-3 days and re-post it about once a week to keep it fresh and in front of millions. Although online dating sites you must beware of, there are plenty of frauds on Craigslist and things to watch out for even though it is free online dating. Note this is one of the alternatives free dating websites or if you prefer the best online dating sites from the internet dating world.

Step 1: Open up a simple notepad utility from your computer or device that you can easily find again. Using a notepad is an easy way to write a short Bio of yourself (Remember – keep it simple, but also safe.) Once you have completed that, find a “Spell Checker” of some sort like Microsoft Word and make any necessary edits you have to.

Step 2: Now let us open-up a web browser from whatever your favorite is and type in Craigslist.org after you sign up for a free account or if you already have one, you are ready to post. Always remember to post in your own city or town obviously you want to meet the person face-to-face eventually when the timing is right. When that time comes to meet the person, especially the first time make sure it is in a public place where there are other people all around you. Now that we are on Craigslist and have our simple notepad from earlier that we saved, we are ready to post.

Let us go through the simple steps together and select:

1) Personal Romance

2) Which of These Best Fits

Missed connection

Strictly platonic (non-romantic, non-sexual, just friends)

Dating, romance (long-term relationship)

Casual encounter (no strings attached)

Rants and raves

3) Choose a Category

I am a man seeking a woman

I am a woman seeking a man

I am a man seeking a man

I am a woman seeking a woman

Miscellaneous romance

Now that we have gone through the necessary steps, we are at the final screen to post our ad on Craigslist in the personals section.

Step 3: (Example)

Posting Title: Let us Get Together/ Specific Location: Hollywood, CA/ Postal Code: 90028

Hello my name is (Name) and I am (Yrs.) of age. Just a little about myself, I am originally From (State) or (City) and lived here for (However many years). I also have been (Married / Never Been Married) (# of Kids / No Kids) If you are interested and want to get to know a little more about me maybe, we could go to dinner, see a movie sometime, and see how things turn out between us. Hit me up sometime (Example) eight hundred eight seven six five three oh nine with a few words and a photo of you.

“Please Only Reply Back If You Read My Ad, Thank You”

As you can see in this Craigslist ad example above the phone number is included in the end of the ad. This is a way to get past the Craigslist personal information policy. You do not have to include your phone number in your ad; you can easily just use the Craigslist email relay if you choose to. In addition, you may get a better response from your ad if you always include a photo with it, so the other person has a general idea of what you look like and for them to make a decision to reply to you if they are interested.

Always play it safe when using online dating, whether it is Craigslist or any other dating website for that matter. Remember you are only chatting with the person and do not really know what is really on the other side of your computer screen, so always play it safe and remember when you decide to meet someone in person for the first time you do so in a public setting where other people are around you.

Good Luck in the Dating World and May You Find Your Best Partner… God Bless Everyone!

With our technology, these days people are finding ways to meet each other without even having to leave their home. Thanks to the powerful internet the source, we have to accomplish many things.

Dating Dangers on the Internet

Internet dating is a popular method of finding love, it is quick with no waiting for snail mail letters to arrive in the post but dating sites are a popular hunting ground for scammers, those people whose intentions are anything but love and rather than finding the key to your heart these people have only one thing in mind-to charm their way into your bank account. There are obvious things to watch out for in a scammer with the main ones being;

(1) The person who contacts you is much younger than you are. It appeals to the ego when someone much younger than ourselves is interested in us but when the other person states in their first letter “age is immaterial” then this should act as a red flag immediately. Ask yourself this question “Would I be interested in someone much older than myself?”

(2) The other person wants to hasten the relationship and usually from the outset will use flattering words to make you field good about yourself. If you are a man then you will be sent photos of beautiful women. These should act as a red flag because if these people are so nice then why don’t they find someone in their own country?

(3) When an African country is mentioned alarm bells should start ringing loud and clear because so many internet scams originate from there but not necessarily. The scammer may come up with a story that he or she comes from another country but is working in Africa.

(4)When your so-called pen friend asks you for money because of some unfortunate incident which has happened such as a car accident, their child is ill, or some other reason then you can be certain that the person is a scammer. People who have been gullible enough to send money to such people have found that there are never-ending request for cash and these unfortunates incidents keep cropping up in this individual’s life. They say “love is blind” and it is true. Common sense tends to go out of the window when someone has finally discovered what they believe is “the love of their life.”

Internet dating is a popular method for people of all ages to find a suitable partner but there are dangers associated with it. This guide will hopefully help you avoid some of the traps which snare some people. There are others who still prefer the old fashioned snail mail which is more personal. After all what can be nicer than receiving a hand written letter through the post with a photo or a post card? There are a few pen pal clubs around which still cater for those wanting snail mail pen pals and they are not hard to find if you did an internet search for them.

Fake False and Duplicate Identities

Online Dating Profiles come and go, people find boyfriends and girlfriends and checkout of the dating scene for a while, some never to return, others just go dark with their profiles until that relationship ends and they are ready to start again, like Taylor Swift’s song; Blank Space. Still there are other more bizarre things happening with the online dating profiles. Let’s talk

You see, not long ago, a nice gal confided in me that she was fed up with online dating. She asked me; “Have you come across people who have more than one profile, appearing as different individuals, but really the same person?”

Yes, but whenever I see that I feel it is a scam, same pictures on different profiles, they probably borrow the pictures from someone else too. As far as other places, I find writers do this because they have more than one specialty and don’t want to confuse or dilute their brand. I have used a pen name before, but don’t bother anymore, so I understand why, but I think that is the wrong way to play it, not just for moral reasons, but rather if everyone does that, then we end up allowing society to categorize us as one thing or another, rather than see the diversity in each individual, thus it does a disservice to the unique’ness of the “one” over the comfort of the many – philosophically speaking of course. Then my acquaintance explains her question deeper;

“I was really referring to two different profiles, two different sets of pics, appearances of two different individuals completely. It’s a total subterfuge. I’m always surprised at the games people play — it’s SO hard to keep my story straight when I’m telling the truth because life is complex.”

Yes, I’ve observed that scenario also, almost as if it is a Chat Bot or Artificial Intelligent program creating profiles. I’ve also heard of scorned women having two profiles so they can check up on their cheating boyfriend, gals have told me they’ve done that. On LinkedIn people make fake profiles so they can post comments in the forums under assumed names to make it look like people agree with them or more people disagree with you. It’s a political game they play too during elections. “Humans and Deception” seem to go hand-in-hand, nothing surprises me and as someone once said; nothing is as it seems.

What happened to the old days when dating was so much simpler? Well my friend those days are gone forever welcome to the Matrix!

4 Benefits of Using the Mobile Dating Apps

The mobile dating apps are a very popular type of tech that makes the dating world a lot less stressful. Even though it is still possible to use the old-fashioned blind dates, speed dating and traditional online dating sites, the ability to use the mobile phone makes the entire process that much more straightforward. Here are several helpful points related to mobile dating apps:

They are very convenient

The entire process of online dating is very convenient and easy for most people to use, but it often needs a lot of time spent in front of your laptop. However the mobile dating apps make it possible to connect with other like-minded individuals while on-the-go, and even makes it possible to connect with a potential match that is close by. So, instead of having to rush home to check on your online dating activity, the mobile apps make it possible to check the status updates whenever you want, whether you are out with friends or grocery shopping.

They simplify the process of getting to know people

Many of the latest apps integrate with the social media sites such as Facebook, which make it even easier to connect and chat to a potential date. By using the social dating techniques it is easier to find out about each other by checking each other’s social profile and seeing whether you have any mutual friends. This gives a lot of information to check before taking things any further.

They help to save a lot of time

Similar to checking the dating profile on a traditional website, you can also check the mobile dating profile while on the go. This is a great way to check the details of other parties as soon as they make a connection, and not wait until the end of the day when you may have several profiles to go through and one-time. Most of the apps make it really easy to quickly see the answers to any questions that you have submitted and also their photos which you can use to decide whether you want to take things further.

Getting setup is simple

Most of the mobile dating apps have a very quick sign-up process that relates to answering a few questions instead of having to work through a lengthy questionnaire. They make it really easy to connect with others by sending a smile, seeing who is close by, or simply flirting. The apps that make it possible to see the location of the other person mean it is even possible to have a quick phone chat and then meet up in a cafe or similar safe place shortly after.

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